Wednesday, April 4, 2018

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The Fear Of Growing Old(er)

I'm getting old(er) y'all. Well, at least I'm still young at heart. We live in a society that is obsessed with staying young forever. There was a time in my life that I feared growing old. I associated the word OLD with DEATH. When I was a lower case g and saw an old person it scared me. The gray hair, wrinkled skin, and certain equipment used to help them move around had me thinking... I don't EVER want that to be me. I'm sure we all went through something like that at some point in our lives. Now that I'm an upper case G, I'm a little more wiser about growing older.

Me: When someone thinks I'm in my 20's. Thank you! But I'm a proud member of Generation X. 

There is a stigma, myth, stereotype, and whatever else society comes up with regarding getting older. At first, I fell for the bullshit but not any more. I've read tons of articles on how to fight the aging process. I'm not going to lie, I thought these articles were doing me a favor in the beginning. However, as I read more of these types of articles I started to question...What's so wrong about something that EVERY single person is going to go through? We were all young once and now it's time to grow old. It's a part of this thing called LIFE.

Ok so maybe my boobs are not as perky as it once was and everytime I think I got rid of the grays hairs, here comes 50-11 more. Am I not suppose to embrace this? Am I suppose to always think negatively towards getting older? I rather embrace this stage of my life than exhaust myself. I'm finally looking forward to aging gracefully.

I've been told numerous times that I don't look my age. There is a saying in the black community... Black Don't Crack! that is used as a compliment for black women (and men) who don't look their age. For a long time I used to say and believe that too. But I'm going to keep it 100 so don't come for me. I have seen with my own eyes how black IS cracking. We may look younger on the outside but we are quickly aging and dying on the inside. A lot of us use Black Don't Crack! as an excuse. 

There needs to be a serious discussion about that comment. I no longer care to use Black Don't Crack! in my vocabulary anymore. The fountain of youth doesn't exist. Old age is going to happen so it's best to embrace it. It just might be better than you expected. Don't believe the hype that it's the end of the road as you get older.

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